Ever been in a situation where you saw only one way to reach your goal, it just wasn’t working, and you couldn’t find a solution? My dog Maggie alerted me to a situation like this recently. I was working in my home office and heard her barking out in the back yard. It wasn’t her crazed, “Squirrel!!!” yip. It was her more authoritative, lower-pitched “Something’s up! Come quickly!” bark.
I went outside and looked over the deck railing. Down in the grass was a young blue jay huddled up against our fence, chirping distressfully. I grabbed a dishtowel and headed down the deck stairs to investigate, assuming the bird was injured. Maggie administered dutiful support, sniffing curiously at the bird, who by this time was definitely not happy about all the attention she was receiving.
I tenderly wrapped the bird in the towel and gently lifted her above the plastic webbing we had installed years ago (to keep Maggie from squeezing between the bars when she was a tiny pup). Just as I loosened my grip on the bird, she perked up, saw her route to freedom, and flew between the bars, landing quite capably in a nearby tree. Suddenly all was well.
What happened here? All alone, with a limited perspective and blocked by the webbing, the jay couldn’t see what the problem was or how to remedy it. All she needed was some gentle guidance.
What does this story have to do with networking and attracting powerful relationships? Plenty.
I frequently work with and observe individuals and teams who are trying to network, build connections, form relationships, and attract opportunities and customers using the same methods they’ve been using for years. Some are so sick of the whole process that they get “networking paralysis” and stop connecting altogether. And then there are the young and energized, but inexperienced networkers. Yes, they are enthusiastic. But, problem is, they “wing it.” They flap along aimlessly because they’ve never been taught about best practices in business socialization. Either way, networking becomes a frustrating waste of time, energy, and resources – and delivers limited results. Or the wrong results!
As with the little blue jay, a limited perspectives become a trap.
Sound familiar? Feeling the pain?
Here are some solutions:
- Dig into a copy of my award-winning book, The Intentional Networker: Attracting Powerful Relationships, Referrals & Results in Business. “Ugh,” you may be saying. “Not another networking book!” Ahhhh, but wait, my friend! My book is refreshingly different. It’s super easy to read, digest, and actually use; chock full of tips and tactics as well as mindset shifts and strategies. I wrote a book I’d want to read – and had plenty of people guiding me to publish a book busy people like you would want to read, too. But wait! There’s more: this powerful little book didn’t just win two literary awards; it’s also been adopted as a go-to success guide by top performing sales teams, high potential leaders, executives, and other motivated people who want to discover and try out simple ways to network more easily, confidently and effectively, not just more. Find The Intentional Networker on Amazon and other online book retailers. Skeptical? Want a free chapter? Click here.
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Your posts are always informative and enlightening…but this brings it to a whole other level. What a creative and memorable way to make a point. Bravo
Thank you, Cindy. You just never know what everyday experiences can reveal to you.
Love this story, Patti! We’ve all been that little bird. I sure have.
Appreciate your comment. Lorie!
Patti, I have been mentoring young professional women through Young Women’s Alliance Connect for the past few years and your book is one of the first gifts I give them. Thank you for writing such a wonderful tool for authentic networking and connection. It is making a difference.
Thanks for this, Kali’! I so appreciate you sharing The Intentional Networker with your mentorees!