Parallels of creativity and connecting

It’s been a while since I last shared a post. The reason? I’ve been in a highly creative phase, working on all kinds of energizing art projects, from sketches and paintings to Gelli prints and multimedia collages. I’m loving it! I’m still doing live and virtual workshops and presentations, coaching and consulting, and promoting my books. But at this point in my life, taking the time for my art in the late afternoons and on weekends is my treat to myself. And, to quote the Big Lebowski, “It keeps my mind limber.” 

What does this have to do with conversation, connecting, and networking with greater intention? Turns out, a lot. It dawned on me this week that the Six Steps in the Creative Process, which you’ve probably seen on social media, have some parallels with the steps we experience when trying to interact meaningfully with others. See if you agree.

The Six Steps

1. This is awesome. When we first decide to begin a creative project or engage with others, we are often full of excitement, hope, and possibilities. “This is going to be so fun!” Then…reality sets in.
2. This is tricky. Our creative project isn’t flowing as brilliantly or as easily as we had envisioned. It feels clumsy and forced. Ditto with our conversations. They, too, may initially feel awkward and predictable. The nosedive begins.
3. This is sh_t. We are struggling. The beautiful, exciting, effortless vision we had for our project or for our socialization is slipping off the rails. “How did I end up with these awful colors and this unbalanced composition?” “Why did I bring up that topic, of all topics?”  “No matter what I do, I can’t seem to make it better! Argh!!” It gets worse.
4. I am sh_t. Now we’ve reached rock bottom and are beating ourselves up. Our dreams of total awesomeness have been brutally dashed against the rocks. We see no solution up ahead. We blame ourselves and feel like total failures. We are just about to give up. Then…if we resolve to stay with it, something shifts. Heyyyy!!!
5. This might be ok. One more random (or courageous) brush stroke or the asking of an unexpected question shifts and salvages everything. We realize all is not lost. In fact…
6. This is awesome. Success! Our determination places us firmly back in the land of possibilities and wonder. And we are so happy we didn’t give up!

What do you think? Do these rules resonate with you creatively or conversationally? Maybe they apply to a new hobby you’re trying out, a project you’re working on, or a connection you’ve been trying to make or grow. Have you had experiences where these six steps revealed themselves? If so, let’s hear it!

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